Re: [Jambo] To the un-married

Absalom Birai wrote:

Dear friends,

Thee is no question that yours is the most challenging task indeed.Granted,there are some mistakes that one can make and collect in life;but a mistake in choosing a life partner, will have a much more effect whose consequences one will feel for the rest of his/her life.As one inspired author writes:" Marriage affects life both in this world and in the world to come" Have mercy!

What makes this phase in life very challenging?

1.Many don't like to be told anything regarding this subject.
2.Many are dictated more by feelings than principles.
3.Some deceive themselves by thinking that once the marriage has taken place,they can change their spouse.No sir,it doesn't always work that way.
4.Those contemplating marriage,forget that like anything else, love tends to change with time and depending on what's happening daily on the ground.

So is there hope? Depends!Depends on what? On whether or not you are willing to take some advise.Note the following:

1.Whether you believe in God or not,you need Him here.Trust me when I say that He is the expert here like in everything else in life.
2.Much as you think that you know it all,at least consult with your parents and be willing to take some advise.
3.Be willing to learn from those who have been in this University already although they have not graduated and there are no signs that they will ever graduate.
4.Never marry someone simply because of sympathy, money, education, beauty, or out of desperation
5.Lay all the cards on the table and critically examine each one-age, education, religion,nationality,etc.
6.Take your time to study and understand what Paul meant when he wrote "Be not be yoked together with un-believers(2 Corinthians 6:14)
7.Meditate on these words" Charm is deceptive,and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"(Proverb 31:30)
8.While no one in his right mind should prepare for tragedies in life,it will be nice at least to remember that stuff do happen in life.Never cheat yourself that all will be OK.It's good to at least prepare your mind on things like sickness,possibility of no children,and or other unfortunate things that have befallen the children of God
9.And finally remember to avoid the attitude of" know it all,ready for anything,don't want to hear anything,no one will prevent me from doing it,don't care what people say or think,and if it doesn't work,I will marry another one"

If you don't have time for any of the above, then please go ahead, for as they say "experience is the best teacher"

As for me,I will continue with my daily studies at the University of marriage.I will faithfully take notes,continue to learn and re-learn, and be willing to make necessary changes.

Just a thought

Pastor Birai-612-386-4608