Stop this Freeloaders before it becomes a cancer

It seems like whenever there is genorousity, people always manipulate others. Why do I say this, because am sick of some of our people taking advantage of the community.

Here is an example: A couple has been living together for years...lets say, over 10 years, they have two to three kids, they have finished school (some have Master's degrees), some of them own a home and seem very Ok financially. Others even have their children in private schools. Because there has been many weddings which have taken place around them, some were even that of their best friends, they decide to have a wedding as well. So far so good, nothing wrong with that. The problem comes in when they want a pre wedding ceremony (some are now trying to organize closed door committees of as many people as they can involve to raise funds for them without making it public) for their fairy tale weddings. People are now being compelled to be in these committee because these people are using guilt trips if you do not show up.

Why do you use the public just because you contributed in other well deserved weddings? Why blackmail those that you supported by compelling them to give just because you assisted them? Why ask for money from struggling, room sharing, basement residing students? At least come up with 70%, then ask for help from "close friends".

I know some of you will be offended by this but truth be told, you do not deserve support for your luxury wedding. You are taking away the morale of giving from people and and making people look foolish for their kindness.

NJ people or may I say JC people are very generous but JC folks you must put a stop to this Ngumbaru weddings appeal for undeserved support. Let them fund their own weddings and leave the community alone especially after they have moved away from the community.

Please do not cease supporting the youth, we need more weddings ofcourse. Some of them are not givers at all, they are good in showing up in functions and hiding behind small bills (if at all they decide to give) while smiling like they just gave generously like Oprah in South Africa.

My advise is, plan your wedding, invite a few friends and call it a day. Do not just wake up one day and decide to wed at the expense of other people's money. It is wrong not to expect to chip in for your own day.

You have seen 20 thousand dollars being raised for the young people and now you think you deserve that "free" money. Some of you decide to disappear after the wedding without even thanking the community for making you a charity foundation. You use forums to send a blanket thank you...WHAT A SHAME!!!!

Harambee spirit is being misused and should stop. We cannot afford to entertain this behaviour of milking our malnourished cows by the already wealthy KCC shareholders who already made a fortune with the milk from their graded ones. THIS IS A SHAME!!!!

Next time someone comes your way with an invitation for these kind of preweddings, just give a smile and tell them you got a wake up call reading Nyamosori's article. Especially when they try to make you give six months ahead of time to beat other young people's weddings (what a gimmick).Tell them you must first finish school, get a well paying job like them and at least get rid of your three roommates. Better yet, tell them that you still have at least 5 years to get to their level so they should give you a break for now.

But remember, do not get tired of giving for the good course because it always comes back to you.

JUST SAY NO TO THIS LATECOMERS...It doesn't matter if they never speak to you ever again. After all they are just fairweather friends. I guarantee you they will disown you right after there wedding day. Trust me.

Have a cheerful day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

- - Nyamosori Kengere - -

P/S The writer is a concerned Kenyan who has used his middle names so that the culprits dont call "watu wa makaratasi" on me as revenge. But the message is clear and unbiased.