Re: [Jambo] To the married men

Join me today as we go on a trip to where our marriage started.

On a second thought,I think it might be a good idea to start with the day you met your sweat heart. Do you still recall the following:

* Numerous telephone calls and text messages just to say hii.
*Frequent check of your e-mail just to see if she had written.
*Exchange of photos and the demand that all other photos should be destroyed.
*Statements like, "When I remember you------"
*Un willing to listen to anyone who told you anything that you considered negative.
*Told your sweet heart that there was no one like her.Were you serious?

Since the day your sweet heart moved to your home and became part of your family a lot of changes have taken place. Here are some of them:
*Children have joined you.
*Both of you started working.
*One or both of you started going to school.
*In-laws came in each wanting not only to be heard but also to be seen.
*Friends came in each one wise in their own ways.
Their influence changed your way of looking at your sweet heart.
*You migrated to USA and encountered a new culture that has changed everything up side down.

In view of the fact that you had nothing to do with some of the above changes which in some ways may have created animosity,hatred,anger,negative attitude and dislike of your sweet heart,there is need for you to do some kind of adjusting so as to bring your relationship to where it's supposed to be. Furthermore, whether you like it or not,you need to bear attention to certain facts.

* Any time you find your self at logger heads with your dear wife,please take a few moments to recall the good old days and particularly those early days that you found each other.
*Avoid majoring in minors and minoring in majors.
*Remember that these three are highly protected:Women,children and animals.It therefore follows that treats,beating,kicking,and temper tantrums will send you to behind bars for a long time. Respect the law and you will always be happy.
*Going for a different one has always been a bad idea and against the commandments of God. Solomon went for 1,000 and they turned him nuts.Before he even knew,he was worshiping their gods.
* In view of the fact that a lot has changed, we have no choice but to change with times.Learn to fix food, clean the house, do laundry, go for groceries, baby sit and any other household duties that will bring joy and satisfaction to your family.
*There is need to spend more time with your wife and children. When and if the noise becomes too much,take a break and go to a quite place without turning off your phone just in case they miss you and want to know where you are.
*Consulting your wife on some issue before doing them will save you a lot of headache.
*Be kind,generous, and gentle to your in-laws just as you are to your family members.
*And above all, you need Jesus in your life for He is the originator and sustainer of marriages. Find time to pray with your family and to go to church with them.
*Avoid being seen as a beggar. Bring a good share of pay and avoid demanding the pay slips.

And finally let us pray for one another as we take care of own our tribes.

Blessings.

Pr Birai-612-386-4608