Re: [Jambo] To the un-married men.

Due to much love, care for your well being and fear of the un-known, friends,parents,siblings,and relatives will never leave you alone until you have made a move to leave the single club alone.This is particularly so when they realize that although that time has come,you have not done any introduction yet,leave alone the fact that you have not been seen hanging around with any prospective candidates.

If you don't mind, allow me to share with you the following:

1. Avoid the temptation of feeling that you are still young. While it's true that you are the only one with the final answer,a prolonged delay might affect you in one way or the other.
2. Taking advantage of picking and dropping one girl friend after another will most definitely ruin the lives of many. Every time you be friend a woman,in a way you tell all the un-married men to stay away from that one.When later on you drop her,it becomes very challenging to find another man. If you are not ready to marry, it might be a good idea to quit playing games.
3. Even when you know that you will not,avoid going round and telling every one that you will never marry so and so or girls of her kind. Be careful my friend for you might end marrying the same one or by far less attractive than you thought.
4. Although the final decision is yours, avoid the temptation of being begged by mostly parents in doing something that will benefit you.
5. Be willing to listen to those who have been there-parents,siblings,elders, friends and your pastor.
6. If you plan to marry from out side your people get enough information and thoroughly understand and accept their culture."I wish I knew expression" does not and will never solve any problem"
7.Avoid the temptation of marrying someone too young or too old. Experience has shown over and over again that the age difference has caused untold miseries in many areas of marriage. 2-5 years a part seems reasonable although debatable. So don't take it lightly. Be the judge.
8.In all that you do, do not forget the possibility of child support. 18 years is a long time. If you don't think so,then you will learn from the university of Hard Knocks.
9.The idea of men and women living in the same house for the sake of sharing rent is un acceptable. Avoid putting yourself into un necessary temptations. Does your car have an alarm or do you know anyone with such a car. When on,any touch will most definitely turn it on.
10. Do not make God's daughters wait for ever. Come on guys make a move.
11.Pray like you have never prayed. Ask the good Lord to help you get someone who will always stand by your side. Will you?

Just a thought.

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