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The Johari Window, named after the first names of its inventors, Joseph
Luft and Harry Ingham, is one of the most useful models describing the process
of human interaction. A four paned "window," as illustrated above, divides
personal awareness into four different types, as represented by its four
quadrants: open, hidden, blind, and unknown. The lines dividing the four
panes are like window shades, which can move as an interaction progresses.
In this model, each person is represented by their own window. Let's describe
mine:
1. The
"open" quadrant represents things that both I know about myself, and that
you know about me. For example, I know my name, and so do you, and if you
have explored some of my website, you know some of my interests. The knowledge
that the window represents, can include not only factual information, but
my feelings, motives, behaviors, wants, needs and desires... indeed, any information
describing who I am. When I first meet a new person, the size of the opening
of this first quadrant is not very large, since there has been little time
to exchange information. As the process of getting to know one another continues,
the window shades move down or to the right, placing more information into
the open window, as described below.
2. The
"blind" quadrant represents things that you know about me, but that I am
unaware of. So, for example, we could be eating at a restaurant, and I may
have unknowingly gotten some food on my face. This information is in my blind
quadrant because you can see it, but I cannot. If you now tell me that I have
something on my face, then the window shade moves to the right, enlarging
the open quadrant's area. Now, I may also have blindspots with respect to
many other much more complex things. For example, perhaps in our ongoing conversation,
you may notice that eye contact seems to be lacking. You may not say anything,
since you may not want to embarrass me, or you may draw your own inferences
that perhaps I am being insincere. Then the problem is, how can I get this
information out in the open, since it may be affecting the level of trust
that is developing between us? How can I learn more about myself? Unfortunately,
there is no readily available answer. I may notice a slight hesitation on
your part, and perhaps this may lead to a question. But who knows if I will
pick this up, or if your answer will be on the mark.
3. The
"hidden" quadrant represents things that I know about myself, that you do
not know. So for example, I have not told you, nor mentioned anywhere on
my website, what one of my favorite ice cream flavors is. This information
is in my "hidden" quadrant. As soon as I tell you that I love "Ben and Jerry's
Cherry Garcia" flavored ice cream, I am effectively pulling the window shade
down, moving the information in my hidden quadrant and enlarging the open
quadrant's area. Again, there are vast amounts of information, virtually
my whole life's story, that has yet to be revealed to you. As we get to know
and trust
each other, I will then feel more comfortable disclosing more intimate details
about myself. This process is called: "Self-disclosure."
4. The
"unknown" quadrant represents things that neither I know about myself, nor
you know about me. For example, I may disclose a dream that I had, and as
we both attempt to understand its significance, a new awareness may emerge,
known to neither of us before the conversation took place. Being placed in
new situations often reveal new information not previously known to self
or others. For example, I learned of the Johari window at a workshop conducted
by a Japanese American psychiatrist in the early 1980's. During this workshop,
he created a safe atmosphere of care and trust between the various participants.
Usually, I am terrified of speaking in public, but I was surprised to learn
that in such an atmosphere, the task need not be so daunting. Prior to this
event, I had viewed myself and others had also viewed me as being extremely
shy. (The above now reminds me of a funny joke, which I cannot refrain from
telling you. It is said that the number one fear that people have is speaking
in public. Their number two fear is dying. And the number three fear that
people have, is dying while speaking in public.) Thus, a novel situation
can trigger new awareness and personal growth. The process of moving previously
unknown information into the open quadrant, thus enlarging its area, has
been likened to Maslow's concept of self-actualization. The process can also
be viewed as a
game
, where the open quadrant is synonymous with the win-win situation.
Much, much more has been written on the Johari window model of human interaction.
The process of enlarging the open quadrant is called self-disclosure, a give
and take process between me and the people I interact with. Typically, as
I share something about myself (moving information from my hidden quadrant
into the open) and if the other party is interested in getting to know me,
they will reciprocate, by similarly disclosing information in their hidden
quadrant. Thus, an interaction between two parties can be modeled dynamically
as two active Johari windows. For example, you may respond to my disclosure
that I like "Cherry Garcia" by letting me know what your favorite ice cream
is, or where a new ice cream shop is being built, kinds of information in
your hidden quadrant. Incidentally, it is fattening, so be careful on how
much you eat!
We believe disclosure to be healthy, at least that's the impression one gets
after reading Freud. However,
Anita Kelly
recently wrote that self-disclosure of personal secrets has its dangers.
We are often better off not telling secrets regarding our sexual behavior,
mental health problems or large-scale failures. "If you give people information
about yourself, you give them power over you," she says. Monica Lewinsky's
disclosure to Linda Tripp and the ensuing scandal that enveloped President
Clinton is a case in point. Be forewarned that most secrets get passed along
to at least two more parties. People also misjudge how others respond to secrets.
Sometimes you get negative feedback. For example, a women who reveals that
she was raped may be seen in the future as a victim, or by men as damaged
goods. Now, if you must tell your secret to someone, chose that person very
carefully. Chose someone whose response will give you some insight into your
problem. Unfortunately, such a person is often hard to find. So if you cannot
find anyone appropriate, consider this: that keeping secrets is healthy and
tasteful, because it is a way of managing your identity, and indicates you
are secure and have self-control. But it takes energy, because you have to
be on constant guard not to accidentally reveal something that is potentially
damaging.
As ones level of confidence and self esteem develops, one may actively invite
others to comment on one's blind spots. A teacher may seek feedback from
students on the quality of a particular lecture, with the desire of improving
the presentation.
Active listening
skills are helpful in this endeavor. On the other hand, we all have defenses,
protecting the parts of ourselves that we feel vulnerable. Remember, the
blind quadrant contains behavior, feelings and motivations not accessible
to the person, but which others can see. Feelings of inadequacy, incompetence,
impotence, unworthiness, rejection, guilt, dependency, ambivalence for loved
ones, needs to control and manipulate, are all difficult to face, and yet
can be seen by others. To forcibly reveal what another wishes not to see,
is "psychological rape," and can be traumatic. Fortunately, nature has provided
us with a variety of defense mechanisms to cope with such events, such as
denial, ignoring, rationalizing, etc.
The Johari window, essentially being a model for communication, can also
reveal difficulties in this area. In Johari terms, two people attempt to
communicate via the open quadrants. On the simplest level, difficulties may
arise due to a lack of clarity in the interaction, such as poor grammar or
choice of words, unorganized thoughts, faulty logic etc. This induces the
receiver to criticize you, the sender, by revealing something that was in
your blind quadrant. Then, if the feedback works, you correct it immediately,
or perhaps on a more long term approach take a course in reading and writing.
On a deeper level, you may be in a group meeting, and while you secretly
sympathize with the minority viewpoint, you voted with the majority. However,
blind to you, you actually may be communicating this information via body
language, in conflict with your verbal message. On an even deeper level, you
in an interaction with others, may always put on a smiling, happy face, hiding
all negative feelings. By withholding negative feelings, you may be signaling
to your friends to withhold also, and keep their distance. Thus, your communication
style may seem bland or distant.
And let's not forget the
parable of the blind men and the elephant.
Our society is constructed so that many of us get very specialized, knowing
only a small academic field very well, while being virtually ignorant of
all others. This specialization is blinding many of us to what is happening
in the world today. According to R. Buckminister Fuller, this system of education
was done on purpose, to channel the most intelligent people into specialties,
enabling them to be more easily controlled. Noam Chomsky has made similar
comments with regards to the manufacturing enterprise, and how Adam Smith's
writings have been purposely misrepresented. See my webpage
On Education.
In the construction of this website, I am putting more of my knowledge into
the open quadrant. I am consciously using the Johari model to improve my
awareness of the world. If you see one of my blind spots, please feel free
to contact me, and let me know!
References:
Luft, Joseph (1969). "Of Human Interaction," Palo Alto, CA:National Press,
177 pages.
Kelly, Anita E. and McKillop, Kevin J. (1996), "Consequences of Revealing
Personal Secrets." Psychological Bulletin, v120(3), pg. 450 .
Roan, Shari (1996). "Our secrets are spilling out all over,"
Los Angeles Times
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